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Dealing with Job Frustration: Embracing Reality and

Finding Satisfaction. By accepting the inherent aspects of your job and focusing on what you can control

By Inc.Arabia Staff
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One of the most common concerns I hear from people is about their frustration and dissatisfaction with their jobs. They seek ways to change whatever is causing their unhappiness, often grappling with inherent aspects of their job, manager, or workplace that they find difficult to accept. The hope is always to make these aspects different, to mold their job into something more aligned with their desires and expectations.

However, sometimes the answer to their concerns is: You can’t.

Understanding the Source of Frustration

Take, for instance, an experience I had with an employee who was persistently frustrated and resentful over several demands of his job. He expressed his dissatisfaction by resisting these demands, ignoring explicit instructions he disagreed with, neglecting projects he found uninteresting, and constantly arguing about the aspects of his job he disliked. His behavior reflected a futile attempt to force the job to become something it wasn't. Instead of accepting the job for what it was and determining if it was something he could live with, he maintained a constant struggle against the job's reality. This not only kept him miserable but also affected the morale and productivity of those around him.

Ultimately, his desire for the job to be different was irrelevant because the job wasn't going to change, and I had no intention of altering it to fit his vision. The job had certain inherent requirements and responsibilities that were non-negotiable. I eventually had a candid conversation with him, asking him to decide if he wanted the job as it was, knowing that the aspects he was unhappy about would not change. I emphasized that there was no shame in deciding that the job just wasn’t the right fit for him. This conversation was pivotal, transforming our dynamic from adversarial to collaborative. We shifted our focus to figuring out the best way to handle the situation's reality together.

Embracing Honesty and Communication

The key to dealing with job frustration lies in being honest with yourself and your manager. It’s crucial to have open discussions about what’s making you unhappy and to explore if there’s any chance of changing these aspects. Sometimes, there may be room for adjustments. For example, you might find that certain processes or responsibilities can be tweaked to better suit your strengths and preferences. Other times, however, you might discover that the core aspects of your job that you’re struggling with are unchangeable.

This doesn't necessarily mean you should immediately look for a new job if you can't get the changes you desire. Often, gaining clarity about what can and cannot change helps you make more informed and balanced decisions. It allows you to assess whether you can adapt to the situation and find a way to be reasonably happy in your role. In many cases, simply understanding the boundaries of what is possible can make it easier to deal with aspects of your job that previously caused frustration.

Making Informed Decisions

Once you have a clear understanding of what can be changed and what cannot, you can make decisions based on reality rather than on an idealized version of your job. This might involve accepting certain aspects of your role and finding ways to focus on the positive elements. For instance, if you find some tasks mundane but enjoy the overall mission of your organization, you might decide that the trade-off is worth it. Alternatively, you might recognize that despite some frustrations, the job offers you valuable opportunities for growth, learning, or career advancement that outweigh the negatives.

In some cases, this process might lead you to realize that your current job isn’t the right fit for you. There is no shame in making this decision. It’s far better to acknowledge that a job doesn’t suit you and to seek a role that aligns better with your skills, interests, and values than to remain in a position that makes you unhappy. This decision can lead to greater long-term satisfaction and productivity, both for you and for your employer.

Finding Contentment

Interestingly, many people find that once they stop fighting against the unchangeable aspects of their job, they can adapt and even find contentment. By shifting their focus from what they dislike to what they can control or enjoy, they often discover a new sense of satisfaction. This doesn’t mean settling for a job that makes you miserable, but rather finding a balanced perspective that allows you to thrive within your current circumstances.

For example, someone who initially struggled with the rigid structure of their job might find ways to introduce creativity and innovation within those constraints. Another person might develop better time management skills to handle tasks they dislike more efficiently, freeing up time to focus on more rewarding aspects of their role. In these scenarios, the job hasn’t changed, but the individual’s approach and mindset have, leading to a more positive experience.

A Realistic Approach

The overarching idea is to commit to seeing and dealing with reality. This means making decisions based on what truly is, not on what you wish it to be. Embracing this realistic approach is far more satisfying than engaging in a constant struggle against the unchangeable. It allows you to direct your energy towards productive actions and positive changes that can enhance your job satisfaction.

By adopting this mindset, you can transform your work experience from one of frustration and resentment to one of acceptance and proactive engagement. This doesn’t mean giving up on advocating for improvements or seeking better opportunities. It means being strategic and realistic about what can be changed and what must be accepted, and making decisions that align with your long-term happiness and career goals.

How to Deal with Employee Performance Problems

In summary, dealing with job frustration effectively involves a combination of honest self-reflection, open communication, and a realistic approach to what can and cannot be changed. By accepting the inherent aspects of your job and focusing on what you can control, you can find greater satisfaction and make informed decisions that enhance your overall work experience. Whether this means adapting to your current role or seeking new opportunities, the key is to base your actions on the reality of your situation, not an idealized vision of what you wish it could be. This approach leads to a more fulfilling and less adversarial work life, benefiting both you and your organization.

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